While First Lady Michelle Obama, Mamiverse, and a multitude of other blogs, newspapers, and magazines, ask us as parents to provide the best we can in education, health care, nutrition, and community, etc., I’ve noticed that our children, teen, and young adults are left out of the equation.
Why? As a family, everyone should pitch in, every day and that includes kids. It doesn’t make for a popular parent, but like I tell my sons, this isn’t a popularity contest. It comes down to life at its most basic–There is no such thing as a free ride–another phrase met with grunts and eye-rolling, but that’s fine with me as long as the chores get done.
My Man and I have raised our kids mostly Old School and they’ve turned out to be funny, bright, polite and great young men, but sometimes act either like a character out of South Park or wake up delusional expecting Prince William and Harry’s life in Buckingham Palace.
When I complain of this to my peers, they actually side with the kids, and I begin to rethink the friendship. So when I came across Claudia Meléndez Salinas’ post in Monterey County School Blog –SCHOOL BYTES– I had to share:
TUESDAY, JULY 10, 2012
maybe it’s the students.So, here’s a topic that’s making the rounds these days. Elizabeth Kolbert of the New Yorker analyzes a book and an essay to conclude that, thanks to over-cuddling parents, children in the United States are growing to be lazy and complacent. We don’t let them learn how to tie their own shoes because it’s not expedient: we’re in a hurry, we have to get to work, so we do it for them. The result: they grow up feeling that everything can be handed down to them, that they don’t have to work hard for anything. And that, if they’re not being entertained, there’s no point in anything.Then comes a response from Lee Bessette, a teacher of writing in Canada, who concludes in this blog at Inside Higher Ed that people are now getting their satisfaction primarily from parenting because everything else in life is so unrewarding that getting that smile of approval from your child is worth the world. Your reason for being.Which makes me wonder: what will happen with those children when they grow up and we’re not there to make them smile, or hand them down life on a silver platter?Read more…. What do you think?