The Missing Element?

From Motherlode to Mamiverse the discussions on balancing family, work, parental roles, marriage, and life in general continues to be juggled between the parents and most of the time, it seems, excludes the kids.

Why aren’t our children part of the discussion?

When my sons were just beginning grade school and learning about George Washington and Abraham Lincoln, I introduced them to John F. Kennedy. They were on the apex of an “I want” blue streak, (insert toy, DVD, pet, or candy).

I was primed to give them my usual spiel about the importance of earning and saving their money, but instead remarked, “You know, an older friend of mine, someone like Grammy, once said to me when I was young, “…ask not what your parents can do for you; ask what you can do for your parents.” I apologized to President Kennedy for masticating his legendary quote, but someone like their grandmother packed a bigger punch than a president. They stared back at me with furrowed eyebrows.  I explained that my older friend was asking us to think of others.

Now my sons are leaving high school and I continue to remind them, using the correct version of President Kennedy’s quote, that the world doesn’t owe them anything, instead its about them contributing to their world, community, and  family.

So, how do we include our children?

3 thoughts on “The Missing Element?

  1. Hi! I read your comment on Mamiverse, the site of which I am editor in chief and I was curious about you. I do agree that our kids nowadays may have a sense of entitlement that maybe we did not in our childhood. But that too, has been addressed in our site. Ah, as a mom who spent some time as a struggling and impoverished single mom, my kids learned that I had to work hard to feed them, and are growing up to be self-sufficient. Now, I’d love to talk to you about spotlighting one of your posts in our site. Would you write to me? Lorraine dot Ladish at Mamiverse dot com.
    THANK YOU

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